upsets?
Traumas?
Problems causing you distress?
Problems causing you to seek help or to take
medication?
in the past?
Recently?
Has your emotional health changed?
How?
When?
What caused the change?
How has your emotional health affected your life and
your sexuality?
Close your eyes and reflect upon your responses.
Your Age, Physical Appearance, And Body Image
How old are you?
How do you feel about being your current age?
Are you comfortable or uncomfortable with your body as
it is?
Has your physical appearance and comfort with your body
image changed?
How?
When?
What caused the change?
How has the physical appearance of your body and your
body image affected
your life,
your sexuality
your spirituality?
What effect does your current age have upon your life
and your sexuality?
Close your eyes and reflect upon your responses.
Partner Availability
How easy or difficult is it for you to find or connect
with an available sexual partner?
Has your partner availability changed?
How?
When?
What caused the change?
How has your partner availability or lack of
availability affected your sexuality?
Close your eyes and reflect upon your responses.
Step Two
Where Did You Come From Originally
Your Conception, Birth And Earliest Years
The second step is to review your origins: your birth,
early parenting, and how your earliest beginnings have affected your current
life. For some of us, this second step is even more difficult that Step 1.
However, if you've already practiced being totally honest with yourself, you
may find your answers flowing easily. As you examine your origins, notice any judgments
you may have, good and bad, about yourself, your parents or other caretakers,
the way life has been for you, the way you believe life should be, what you
feel you deserve or don't deserve, and the way life is.
You are about to go on an imaginary journey back to the
moment of your own conception. Allow your mind to participate fully. Do not
censor any thoughts that arise.
Allow your imagination to run free, recalling times you
can only know intuitively.
Imagine that special date, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, or 80+
years ago, the moment when your mother and father performed the sexual act that
created you.
Your Conception
How do you imagine your parents felt about each other
before, during and after the moment when you were conceived?
Were either of your parents experiencing stress,
physical or mental illness, under the influence of alcohol or drugs
(prescription or recreational) while you were being conceived?
Close your eyes and
reflect upon your responses.
Your Mother’s Pregnancy
Carrying You
How did your mother describe her pregnancy when she
was carrying you?
Were there any complications?
How did she say she felt physically and emotionally?
How did she describe her sleep, exercise and rest?
Were your parents thrilled, conflicted or disturbed
about your impending birth?
Did either of your parents want you to be the other sex?
Did your parents lose any children before you were
born?
What effect did your mother's pregnancy have upon your
life and your sexuality?
Close your eyes and reflect
upon your responses.
Your Mother’s Labor And Birthing Of You
How did your mother describe her experience of labor
when she was giving birth to you? How long did it last?
Was your father present in the delivery room and did
he participate?
Who else was present in the delivery room?
Did you willingly and easily emerge or was there some
dfifficulty?
Were you in a twisted or breech birth position?
Was the umbilical cord tangled around your neck?
Did you resist being born and find yourself pulled out
with forceps?
Were you born through your mother's vaginal canal or
cut out of her abdominal cavity by a caesarian section?
Were you born prematurely and were you placed in an
incubator?
Was anything physically wrong with you when you were
born?
What effect did your birthing process have upon
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