Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson Page A

ecstasy in becoming socially conditioned. Still, we are made for ecstasy and it can be relearned.
    Equal and Opposite Forces
    Too easily we assume that the energetic bodies of man and woman are in effect the same. In reality a woman’s body is completely different from that of a man’s and exactly to what extent our bodies differ has not been understood. Any differences between us are taken for granted, while the deeper implications are missed.
    If we look at the differences that are apparent between male and female
bodies—the sexual organs and associated reproductive functions—what can we see?
We see the unique male ability to produce and discharge seeds containing half the blueprint for life. We see the unique female ability to receive, absorb, supply the other half of the blueprint and transform it into life within her. Reproduction demonstrates that male and female are equal forces in perfect balance: one no stronger, one no weaker; each providing a vital function. Man cannot reproduce himself on this planet without woman, and woman cannot create life in the absence of man. These two equal forces are absolutely opposite in expression while at the same time utterly complementary. There is an active force balanced by a receptive force.
    Woman’s body is equal to man’s body while simultaneously energetically opposed to it. So, in sex, what goes for a man (apparently) is not
necessarily
energetically suitable or true for a woman. In being opposite and equal to man, woman complements man in his entirety. This equal and opposite phenomenon underpins the powerful pull of sex—we are continually drawn to the opposite sex regardless of our age and it seems that sex will not leave us in peace, or at least not for very long. Actually, sex is knocking on our door, offering a secret way to attain profound peace and love through male and female elements being rightly harnessed. By meeting, melting, and merging with the opposite force, we become complete, we become one. The sense of separation evaporates into the sense of immense union with everything that is. Most people in our societies today hold sex and spiritually far apart, and many even consider them to conflict with one another. Yet the longing for union (with the opposite sex or with existence itself) is a spiritual longing, which reveals why, in their essence, sex and spirituality are so closely associated.
    Energetic Differences of Woman Compared with Man
    We hear little about different energetic qualities of female and
male and a lot about constitutional and emotional differences. A basic education
should include a study of how our different energies manifest in our physical
differences—and what significance these have in the sexual exchange. Nature intentionally instilled the female and male genitals with complementaryqualities, or polarities of energy, in order that they might interact and play with each other.
    The female element is receptive and the male element is active.* 1 Many other words can be assigned to describe these essentially opposing qualities,
such as yin/yang, moon/sun, night/day, passive/dynamic. The meeting of female and male is a meeting of opposite poles, and this meeting makes a flow of energy possible between them. At the subtle energy level this complementary design produces, with relative ease, an orgasmic state. By virtue of
not being the same
, these equal but opposite forces create one vibrant unit. Only when these two halves meet is the sexual unit complete. Imagine a lock and key. A lock without a key is basically useless. A key without a lock is equally as useless. Together, through one fitting into the other, they perform an essential function. Even though each part is quite different in design, when the fit is true the unit rotates and a secret door swings open to reveal a paradise of hitherto unknown sexual experience.
    In addition to the existence of this polarity, we must understand that woman is in fact half man and man