until someone who leads with Type 1 gives us permission to bring it forward.
Because others sometimes judge Type 1s as shallow, a Type 1 child may become concerned about superficial friends. You can reassure a Type 1 child that having many friends comes naturally to them, and it’s never a problem unless they keep creating friendships that compromise their animated, optimistic nature.
. . . .
CLAIRE’S STORY
Type 1s Need Friends
Claire was two years old when she moved out of state with her family. Her parents understood her random, playful, Type 1 nature, so they planned fun activities for her and thought she would love experiencing all the new sights of an unfamiliar place. But by the end of the first week in their new home, Claire was cranky, irritable, and unusually whiny. Her parents wondered what they were doing wrong. In a flash of child-whisperer inspiration, they got the answer. Fun activities alone were not enough—Claire needed friends.
Her parents immediately went looking for play groups and social settings where many young children would be present. After three days of activities that involved groups of other young children, Claire’s naturally cheery demeanor returned. She started singing to herself again and rarely whined, even when doing activities with just Mom or Dad.
. . . .
Type 1s are so socially oriented that they have a hard time when isolated—even if there are plenty of new things to see and do. They thrive on the social aspect of those experiences.
Child Whisperer Tip: Facilitate opportunities for your Type 1 child to interact with various people. As long as the opportunity is there, they’ll make friends with whomever they meet!
Timeliness: Unstructured
As you might imagine, a Type 1s unstructured nature shows up in the way they manage time. The Type 1 children I know often run late for school or getting out the door. They sometimes forget plans they’ve made with friends. And they often rush at the last minute.
Remember, these children are not trying to be late. Most of them want to be on time, but they get distracted while getting ready. Their minds move so quickly that they actually get distracted by several things at a time.
Child Whisperer Tip: Treating Type 1s like they need to fix a flaw in themselves will not help them become punctual. Every time you fight against a child’s true nature, you actually increase the tendency for the very problem you want to avoid.
Helping your Type 1 child have fun along the way as they prepare to go somewhere will help them get out the door easier.
Child Whisperer Tip: You could invite your child to make up a silly get-ready-for-school song (just start singing and they’ll probably make up more words), you could play follow-the-leader out to the car, or if you’re going somewhere fun, just surprise them with the news of where you’re going close to the time you’re leaving. If it sounds like a good idea, they’ll want to go right when you mention it.
What are you doing to make your Type 1 child’s get-ready-for-school routine just a little bit more fun? How could you turn it into a game?
Jobs and Household Chores: Make chores a game
Giving a Type 1 child a long chore list just will not work. They appreciate ideas and newness, but follow-through is not their natural strength. One look at a long, boring list and they will lose focus and motivation. You will end up feeling frustrated, like you have to hold their hand every step of the way. Even then, they may only do chores quickly and not thoroughly.
Type 1 children do love to be helpful. They want to put a smile on your face, but they would obviously rather play than clean up. So why not transform work into play? Turn a chore into a game or an opportunity to pretend and you will find the best Type 1 helper on the planet. “Cinderella, mop the floor!” or “Quick! Let’s see if we can make all the toys in the front room fly into their box!”
Even very young Type 1
Because others sometimes judge Type 1s as shallow, a Type 1 child may become concerned about superficial friends. You can reassure a Type 1 child that having many friends comes naturally to them, and it’s never a problem unless they keep creating friendships that compromise their animated, optimistic nature.
. . . .
CLAIRE’S STORY
Type 1s Need Friends
Claire was two years old when she moved out of state with her family. Her parents understood her random, playful, Type 1 nature, so they planned fun activities for her and thought she would love experiencing all the new sights of an unfamiliar place. But by the end of the first week in their new home, Claire was cranky, irritable, and unusually whiny. Her parents wondered what they were doing wrong. In a flash of child-whisperer inspiration, they got the answer. Fun activities alone were not enough—Claire needed friends.
Her parents immediately went looking for play groups and social settings where many young children would be present. After three days of activities that involved groups of other young children, Claire’s naturally cheery demeanor returned. She started singing to herself again and rarely whined, even when doing activities with just Mom or Dad.
. . . .
Type 1s are so socially oriented that they have a hard time when isolated—even if there are plenty of new things to see and do. They thrive on the social aspect of those experiences.
Child Whisperer Tip: Facilitate opportunities for your Type 1 child to interact with various people. As long as the opportunity is there, they’ll make friends with whomever they meet!
Timeliness: Unstructured
As you might imagine, a Type 1s unstructured nature shows up in the way they manage time. The Type 1 children I know often run late for school or getting out the door. They sometimes forget plans they’ve made with friends. And they often rush at the last minute.
Remember, these children are not trying to be late. Most of them want to be on time, but they get distracted while getting ready. Their minds move so quickly that they actually get distracted by several things at a time.
Child Whisperer Tip: Treating Type 1s like they need to fix a flaw in themselves will not help them become punctual. Every time you fight against a child’s true nature, you actually increase the tendency for the very problem you want to avoid.
Helping your Type 1 child have fun along the way as they prepare to go somewhere will help them get out the door easier.
Child Whisperer Tip: You could invite your child to make up a silly get-ready-for-school song (just start singing and they’ll probably make up more words), you could play follow-the-leader out to the car, or if you’re going somewhere fun, just surprise them with the news of where you’re going close to the time you’re leaving. If it sounds like a good idea, they’ll want to go right when you mention it.
What are you doing to make your Type 1 child’s get-ready-for-school routine just a little bit more fun? How could you turn it into a game?
Jobs and Household Chores: Make chores a game
Giving a Type 1 child a long chore list just will not work. They appreciate ideas and newness, but follow-through is not their natural strength. One look at a long, boring list and they will lose focus and motivation. You will end up feeling frustrated, like you have to hold their hand every step of the way. Even then, they may only do chores quickly and not thoroughly.
Type 1 children do love to be helpful. They want to put a smile on your face, but they would obviously rather play than clean up. So why not transform work into play? Turn a chore into a game or an opportunity to pretend and you will find the best Type 1 helper on the planet. “Cinderella, mop the floor!” or “Quick! Let’s see if we can make all the toys in the front room fly into their box!”
Even very young Type 1
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