Tantric Orgasm for Women by Diana Richardson

a cool, peaceful, calm, relaxing valley where the body floats as light as a feather, dissolving into love-drenched nothingness. It can be the experience of eternity, beyond time, suspended in space by breath, one with the pulsation
of life. It also happens, as if by miracle, that from this depth of relaxation a peak of energy arises, but without any effort at all. A subtle force rises slowly and steadily from the depths and moves into a sexual dance, choreographed by a divine energy passing through the bodies.
    Tantric Inspiration
    Relaxation is a state. You cannot force it. You simply drop all negativities, the hindrances and, it comes, it bubbles up by itself. What is relaxation? It is a state of affairs where your energy is not moving anywhere, not in the future, not to the past—it is simply there with you. In the silent pool of your own energy, in the warmth of it, you are enveloped.
This
moment is all. There is no other moment. Time stops—then there is
relaxation. If time is there, there is no relaxation. Simply, the clock stops;
there is no time. This moment is all. Relaxation means this moment is more than
enough, more than can be asked or expected. Nothing to ask, more than enough,
more than you can desire—then the energy never moves anywhere. It becomes a placid pool. In your own energy, you dissolve. This moment is relaxation. Relaxation is neither of the body nor of the mind, relaxation is of the total.
    O SHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS ,
    T ANTRA : T HE S UPREME U NDERSTANDING
     
    Awareness and Sensitivity Exercise
Partner Exercise to Harmonize the Energies
    An energy-harmonizing exercise such as this one can be used to
attune you and your partner to one another. Give yourselves about half an hour.
It can be done as described here, as a practice in itself, or as a mode of
foreplay that continues into making love. The harmonizing exercise finishes with
both of you standing up, which is really one of the best ways to begin making
love—kissing and embracing and gradually proceeding to the bed.
    Prepare a meditative atmosphere around you and your partner. Place cushions
opposite each other a little distance apart. (Use chairs if necessary.) Sit
upright with crossed legs, if possible, and a comfortably straight spine. Your spine will be better supported if you sit directly on the bones of the buttocks (sitz bones), so do lean forward and pull the flesh of your buttocks slightly apart and away from you. This will create a slight arch in the lower back, which makes sitting on the floor with crossed legs easier to sustain.
    Sit facing each other in the night, by candlelight or by moon-light, and hold each other’s hands crosswise. Use soft vision, as described at the end of chapter 2. For about ten minutes look into one another’s eyes; if your body starts swaying, allow it to. You can blink, but go on looking into one another’s eyes. Whatever happens, don’t let go of one another’s hands. After ten minutes, close your eyes and allow the swaying to continue for a further ten minutes.
    Then stand and sway together, holding hands for ten more minutes. You can have eyes open or closed, whatever feels most comfortable for you. Finish with a warm embrace. This exchange will mix your energy deeply.

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    The Source of Orgasmic States

    T here are many reasons why
the sexual exchange often does not lead to orgasm for women. One of these
reasons is that the sex act is much too short, due to the chronic premature
ejaculation that exists among men. A few minutes of sexual intercourse does not remotely begin to tap the orgasmic energies of a woman. The most important reason, though, is that the
real source of female orgasm is misunderstood
. We require concrete information about the delicately designed energy that exists in the female body. Orgasm should be a relatively effortless affair. Ecstasy is our natural state: we are all born ecstatic, but sadly, throughout childhood we slowly lose access to our