wrongs donât make a right, so why would I think that these women would behave as if they did? Badly done, Amy.
Sheepish but still curious about the relationship question, I waded back in with arguments Iâd heard from former students, since the Charlotte/Mr. Collins match always finds defenders in California. âCanât there be more than one kind of marriage? Why do we have to assume that everybodyâs looking for the same kind of thing in their married life?â
Still not buying it. âWithout love, itâs not a marriage,â Flor pronounced bluntly.
The other four defenders of love concurred. Then two began to waffle.
âHer husband is a preacher, after all, and thatâs a good thing,â said Nora.
âI hope for her sake Charlotte will grow to love him,â Ani added, a look of compassion on her kind face. There it was, again, just like Iâd seen over and over again in the StatesâAustenâs characters bursting the seams of her novels as if they were real people. I couldnât help but smile, thinking about my students (and a slew of Austen sequel writers, eager to chronicle Charlotteâs fate).
âLove doesnât work that way,â Flor insisted firmly, moving forward in her seat for emphasis. âIn a couple, if from the outset one doesnât love the other, theyâre never going to.â
That love is necessary, all agreed. But the question of whether love can grow provoked yet another flurry of debate.
âWeâve all had our different experiences here,â Mercedes declared. âMe, Iâm a widow. And youâve been divorced, youâve been divorced, youâve been divorced,â she pointed in turn at Nora, Ãlida, and Flor. âAnd Ani, single. We all know now that when it comes down to it, youâve got to ask yourself, how will I feel by this personâs side?â
âCan you really live with them?â seconded Ãlida.
âThe biggest problem here is that we all worry too much what other people think about our decisions,â Mercedes said. âWe say we shouldnât, but we do.â
As for Austen, she was fading further into the background, but I had no intention of steering us back. I didnât want to turn this into a lecture; I wanted to see where Austen would lead us.
âBut it can be hard to make good decisions about men, because we grew up with so little information,â Mercedes continued. âI didnât spend any time with men until after I finished school. Thatâs how we were raised here, right?â Nods all around. âMy very first school was a convent!â
Flor giggled and the rest joined in, sharing memories of conservative Catholic schools and encounters with nuns.
âMy school was so strict,â Nora said. âBut actually, I wanted to be a nun!â
As Flor laughed even harder, Mercedes added, âI did too! I really did! But my grandmother talked me out of it. She told me to make sure that I understood the commitment.â
âYes, since itâs like a marriage,â I offered.
Suddenly five sets of eyes were fixed on me. âItâs not like a marriage,â Ani said gently but firmly. âIt is a marriage.â
As much as we had in common, I was reminded with a jolt, we came from different worlds. Iâd been raised Catholic but not in a Catholic country. I wondered how many combinations of five women youâd have to pull together in the United States to produce a group in which not one but three had seriously considered becoming nuns. Quite a lot, I suspect.
We transitioned from how little interaction theyâd had with men while growing up to how one adjusts to living with the troublesome creatures (male readers, please reverse the genders here). Our conversation then began fracturing off into chat between pairs. Somebody began a juicy story about somebodyâs sister getting pregnant by some real so-and-so,
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