then, tell her. Do it now. Let’s practice. When I raise my hand in a moment, I want every husband here to whisper in his wife’s ear: ‘You are the most beautiful woman in the world.’ And, whisper one reason why that’s true. It could be a physical feature, a character trait, or a spiritual quality. All right, go! And make her believe it.”
The wives love this. Absolutely love it! Then, I add: “Is doing this once a year good enough? No! Every six months? No! Once every month? No! Husbands, tell her she’s beautiful with a specific reason every day .”
My great friend, Bob Johns, is a master at telling his wife, Pam, that she’s beautiful. When Sandy and I are with the Johns, Bob will comment on Pam’s beauty more than once. Pam loves it, and she loves Bob for doing it.
Bob and Solomon know you need to convince your wife every day that you think she is the most beautiful woman on the earth. When you get that done, how will she respond? The same way Shulamith responds to Solomon’s praise in chapter four of the Song.
In 4:11–5:1, there is a very erotic description of exactly how Shulamith responds to Solomon and his heartfelt compliments about her beauty. They have deep intimate kisses (4:11), she is very sexually aroused (4:15), she urges him to come inside her (4:16), and they have intensely pleasurable intercourse (5:1).
Shulamith gives herself completely and passionately to Solomon. I think you get the picture.
“Come Over Here, You Stud”
Just a few verses later, Shulamith goes on her own rant of praise for Solomon. As Solomon did, she begins with a general statement of praise.
Shulamith (5:10)
“My beloved is dazzling and ruddy,
Outstanding among ten thousand.”
She describes him as a strikingly attractive man. He’s not just good looking. He’s dazzling. But she also wants Solomon to know that she deeply respects his character. He is outstanding. He is extremely impressive to her.
Solomon, as every man does, yearns for his woman to think he’s a physical stud and to be impressed with him as a person. Shulamith knows this truth and so continues to praise his physical attractiveness and excellent character.
Shulamith (5:12)
“His eyes are like doves . . .”
She loves his eyes because they are soft and express his love for her.
Shulamith (5:13a)
“His cheeks are like a bed of balsam . . .”
She adores his cheeks—the cheeks on his face, in case you were wondering. (I bet she likes his other cheeks too!)
Shulamith (5:13b)
“His lips are lilies,
Dripping with liquid myrrh.”
She’s crazy about his lips. His kisses are gentle and sweet.
Shulamith (5:14b)
“His abdomen is carved ivory . . .”
The man has abs of ivory! At least, she thinks so. She is also commenting on his strength.
Shulamith (5:15a)
“His legs are pillars of alabaster . . .”
She admires his powerful body and believes he is unshakable in times of trouble.
Shulamith (5:15b)
“His appearance is like Lebanon,
Choice as the cedars.”
She tells him he is a distinguished, regal person who possesses great dignity.
At this point in a marriage seminar, I tell the wives it’s their turn to take a few minutes and whisper some praise into their husbands’ ears. I say, “Your husband is the most impressive man in the world. Right? Well, then, tell him. When I raise my hand, whisper into his ear, ‘You are my man and you are outstanding.’ And, whisper one reason why that’s true. It could be a physical feature like his cheeks, a character trait, or a spiritual quality.”
Although the husbands love it, the wives seem to love it even more. The ladies usually get carried away and keep on talking and touching their husbands.
In 5:16, Shulamith describes their mutual passionate response to her words of praise for Solomon:
“His mouth is full of sweetness,
And he is wholly desirable.”
We know Solomon is responding to her, because of the “sweetness” in his mouth. This phrase refers to the tender and kind
The wives love this. Absolutely love it! Then, I add: “Is doing this once a year good enough? No! Every six months? No! Once every month? No! Husbands, tell her she’s beautiful with a specific reason every day .”
My great friend, Bob Johns, is a master at telling his wife, Pam, that she’s beautiful. When Sandy and I are with the Johns, Bob will comment on Pam’s beauty more than once. Pam loves it, and she loves Bob for doing it.
Bob and Solomon know you need to convince your wife every day that you think she is the most beautiful woman on the earth. When you get that done, how will she respond? The same way Shulamith responds to Solomon’s praise in chapter four of the Song.
In 4:11–5:1, there is a very erotic description of exactly how Shulamith responds to Solomon and his heartfelt compliments about her beauty. They have deep intimate kisses (4:11), she is very sexually aroused (4:15), she urges him to come inside her (4:16), and they have intensely pleasurable intercourse (5:1).
Shulamith gives herself completely and passionately to Solomon. I think you get the picture.
“Come Over Here, You Stud”
Just a few verses later, Shulamith goes on her own rant of praise for Solomon. As Solomon did, she begins with a general statement of praise.
Shulamith (5:10)
“My beloved is dazzling and ruddy,
Outstanding among ten thousand.”
She describes him as a strikingly attractive man. He’s not just good looking. He’s dazzling. But she also wants Solomon to know that she deeply respects his character. He is outstanding. He is extremely impressive to her.
Solomon, as every man does, yearns for his woman to think he’s a physical stud and to be impressed with him as a person. Shulamith knows this truth and so continues to praise his physical attractiveness and excellent character.
Shulamith (5:12)
“His eyes are like doves . . .”
She loves his eyes because they are soft and express his love for her.
Shulamith (5:13a)
“His cheeks are like a bed of balsam . . .”
She adores his cheeks—the cheeks on his face, in case you were wondering. (I bet she likes his other cheeks too!)
Shulamith (5:13b)
“His lips are lilies,
Dripping with liquid myrrh.”
She’s crazy about his lips. His kisses are gentle and sweet.
Shulamith (5:14b)
“His abdomen is carved ivory . . .”
The man has abs of ivory! At least, she thinks so. She is also commenting on his strength.
Shulamith (5:15a)
“His legs are pillars of alabaster . . .”
She admires his powerful body and believes he is unshakable in times of trouble.
Shulamith (5:15b)
“His appearance is like Lebanon,
Choice as the cedars.”
She tells him he is a distinguished, regal person who possesses great dignity.
At this point in a marriage seminar, I tell the wives it’s their turn to take a few minutes and whisper some praise into their husbands’ ears. I say, “Your husband is the most impressive man in the world. Right? Well, then, tell him. When I raise my hand, whisper into his ear, ‘You are my man and you are outstanding.’ And, whisper one reason why that’s true. It could be a physical feature like his cheeks, a character trait, or a spiritual quality.”
Although the husbands love it, the wives seem to love it even more. The ladies usually get carried away and keep on talking and touching their husbands.
In 5:16, Shulamith describes their mutual passionate response to her words of praise for Solomon:
“His mouth is full of sweetness,
And he is wholly desirable.”
We know Solomon is responding to her, because of the “sweetness” in his mouth. This phrase refers to the tender and kind
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