The Bride Experiment by Mimi Jefferson

them. Beautiful women are just like other women; they love to talk. Only, beautiful women have very few opportunities to just talk. They crave the opportunity to have a conversation, where there are no strings attached.” James looked at the men and pointed. “That’s where you come in.
    â€œYou walk into that coffeehouse and you approach this woman. You tell her you need her advice desperately, if she could only spare thirty seconds. You explain that your girlfriend from out of town is coming in a few days and you want to make the weekend extremely special, only you can’t figure out what to do. Normally, you wouldn’t be this out of sorts, but your girlfriend is a beautiful woman, and frankly she’s a bit out of your league. She’s been a lot of places and done a lot of things. A simple date just won’t work. She’s coming all these miles and you need to make an impression. You are so excited to be with her and desperately in love, even considering marriage. Does she have any suggestions?”
    James’s voice dropped to almost a whisper. He folded his arms and scanned the room again. “What have you done, my friends?”
    His normal voice returned. “Your coffee lady is about to put her guard down. You are a simple guy only looking for thirty seconds of her time. Of course, you will use more time, but she appreciates your desire to be brief. You have told her you are desperately in love with another woman. So she doesn’t have to worry about you trying to jump her bones. Then you asked her for suggestions, satisfying her need to be heard. Finally she gets to voice her opinion in a comfortable atmosphere. You, my brother, are in! All you have to do is sit back and listen and pretend, as if everything you are hearing rings absolutely true.
    â€œThe next week, your coffee lady will be in her exact same spot, waiting for a full report on how everything went with your girlfriend. As the hours went by, you had become more and more intriguing. All weekend long, she wondered about you and how the weekend was going.
    â€œYou walk into the coffee shop as happy as can be. You tell her how much your girlfriend enjoyed her suggestions and how grateful you are. You only wish your girlfriend could have stayed in town. Only, she’s working on a big project and can’t move, and you need to stay close to town, too, because of a job you love too much to leave. Then abruptly end the conversation. Don’t make it seem like you are trying to prolong the conversation. She will not want you to leave, but she’s not about to admit that. Go back to your side of the coffee shop, sip your coffee as you text or phone your imaginary girlfriend. The coffee shop lady will be watching your every move, even if it seems she never looks up from her keyboard. You are proving to her that you are not the least bit interested in her. This is key.” James wanted to smile, but he remained serious. He could tell the men couldn’t wait to hear the rest of his lesson.
    â€œOnce you finish your coffee, hang up your phone, then get ready to leave. Make it to the door, then turn back. Walk over to the coffee shop lady and say, ‘My girlfriend really enjoyed this weekend. She just told me again. I was going to blank-blank restaurant for dinner tonight. I would love to show you my appreciation.’ Make sure the restaurant is close by. She will not mind having a quick bite with you, but she needs to be able to do so with little effort. If she can drive her own car and stay in close vicinity to the coffee shop, she maintains her control, or so she thinks.
    â€œBut this is all a part of the plan to become her new best friend. Laugh at her jokes and compliment her on her intelligence. Never, and I mean never, compliment her on her looks or her body. You need to satisfy the need in her that says she’s more than just a pretty face and a nice body. Pay very close attention to her.