The Murder of Jeffrey Dryden: The Grim Truth Surrounding Male Domestic Abuse by Troy Veenstra

she was black when she made the comment about grammar)
CAN STOP TRYING TO PORTRAY ALL BLACK PEOPLE AS BEING STUPID.. NOW
NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THE FUCK WENT DOWN IN THERE HOME SO ALL THESE
COMMENTS STATING HE WASN'T HAPPY AND HE WAS BEING ABUSED BY
CHIQUITA.. WELL HE SHOULD HAVE HAD ...ENOUGH FUCKING SENSE TO GET
THE FUCK OUT OF DOGE WHEN SHE FIRST STARTED KICKING HIS
ASS.”
    “ CANDICE:
    DO YOU KNOW CHIQUITA FIZER?
ANSWER:NO
    HAVE YOU EVER SPOKEN WITH HER ABOUT
JEFF ANSWER:NO
    WHO GIVES TWO FUCKS ABOUT WHAT YOUR
SISTER TOLD YOU.. AND AS FAR AS YOU FEELING COMFORTABLE WITH SAYING
WHATEVER TO WHO EVER YOU WANT, I FEEL AS THOUGH THAT IS A FALSE
COMMENT, I'M ALMOST CERTAIN THAT YOU WOULD BE QUIET AS A CHURCH
MOUSE IF ANYONE OF MS.FIZERS FAMILY MEMBERS EVER APPROACHED ON THE
COMMENTS YOUR CLAIMING YOU FEEL COMFY ABOUT SAYING... NOW YOU AND
YOUR SISTER CAN GO AHEAD AND GOSSIP AMONGST YOUR SELVES ALL DAY
LONG BUT GETTING ON HERE TALKING ABOUT IT INST A GOOD IDEA ON YOUR
BEHALF (sounds like a threat) SO... I HAVE TO TELL YOU! AND ANOTHER
THING SHE WASN'T A TICKING TIME BOMB THE COLUMBINE KIDS WERE
TICKING TIME BOMBS SO YOU CAN KEEP YOUR LITTLE STUPID EXAGGERATING
COMMENTS TO YOUR SELF BETTER YET TELL THEM TO YOUR SISTER SINCE YOU
GUYS LOVE TO GOSSIP,”
    SARA KWEKEL: (made the comment that,
“if Chiquita killed Jeff she deserves to go to jail”) WHY WOULD YOU
BE WISHING BAD THINGS ON HER.. WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU ANSWER: NOBODY
THAT MATTERS.... YES, ITS VERY SAD WHAT HAPPEN BUT IM ALMOST
CERTAIN THAT YOU WOULD BE UPSET IF SOMEONE WISHED SOMETHING BAD
UPON ONE OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT..
I CANT EVEN CUSS YOU OUT LIKE I WANT TO BECAUSE IM JUST ANNOYED BY
YOUR IGNORANT ASS COMMENT.. JUST GO TO HELL FOR THAT.. DAMN YOU
JUST PISS ME OFF”
    After her sweet and kind comments were
made, quite a few people had to add to her statements. A man by the
name of Joey stated, “Nobody said a thing about the black people,
except for Tiffany... a black person. Odd, I must say. I was noting
the ignorance that is displayed when people feel the need to type
with caps lock on, write incomplete sentences, misspell common
words like "racist" etc. I see you've reinforced that. Thank
You.
    This was followed by Sara Lyn who
stated, “I am just going to say one thing. The least racist people
I know are Jeff's family and friends! We could care less if your
orange and spotted! How on God’s green earth did a murder turn into
a "race thing??" Seriously?!! What is the point in it?! And no we
are not racist; we simply could not read what they were trying to
say!”
    Sara Kwekel responded back by stating,
“She KILLED someone! How is this EXCUSABLE in ANY WAY? I've had
PLENTY wished upon my family, I have been spoken of negatively by
the public on this very site for things my ex-husband did. Been
there done that. However, I do not let people's comments get under
my skin as you do. People will always talk trash, but how you
handle it shows how you are as a human being. And you don't seem to
be much of one by how you speak. I would hate to see how you carry
yourself in person. It’s probably a pathetic sight.”
     

CHAPTER 8:
    THE MOURNING
COMES…
    That morning came a bit too fast,
faster than what I could prepare myself for, not that anyone or
anything can prepare you to see a loved one in a coffin well before
their prime, or really for any other reason, but this… this was
different from other deaths.
    Walking up to the funeral home entrance
with Eric that damp cloudy morning, we both tried to prepare
ourselves for the ritual that was to come. The sacrament we thought
we knew very well already. By this time in my life I‘d of thought I
would know what to say. What to do and how to act. Death over the
years had become something of second nature to our family. Losing
our father, our maternal grandfather, grandmother and paternal
grandfather all within six months of each passing over the span of
two years, I thought I knew how to