with overwhelming emotions. Hold her close and make her feel safe and assured.
All of the above was about distracting her from her own concerns, insecurities, and self limiting beliefs, by giving her another task to perform, while the goal was simply to receive pleasure. But YOUR goal was to give her an orgasm.
Her First Vaginal Orgasm
All of the above can be used on a woman who is dependent on clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. For such a woman who has clitoral orgasms, but has never had a vaginal orgasm, she probably thinks that she is not one of the “lucky ones.” But at least you do not have to overcome fear and anxiety over having AN orgasm.
You can use the above to give her her first vaginal orgasm. Again, you simply give her pleasure for the sake of pleasure. The motivation is emotional intimacy.
You distract her self limiting belief that she cannot have a vaginal orgasm by giving her the task of pleasing you.
You drive it home by having her occupied with surrendering to you.
That last part will be much easier because she has already had clitoral orgasms.
The PC Muscles Method
If nothing works, you are eventually going to have to mention orgasms, and her lack of having them. But do NOT blame it on her mind or her sexual organs.
One possibility is to blame it on her PC muscles.
The PC muscles are the pelvic floor muscles that connect from the pubic bone to the tail bone. They can be strengthened by Kegel exercises. See the chapter “Kegel Exercises.”
A study in 1979 by Graber and Graber found that women who have not had an orgasm are women who had weak PC muscles. Women who had clitoral, but not vaginal orgasms, had stronger PC muscles.
Women who had both clitoral and vaginal orgasms had even stronger PC muscles.
Women who were multi-orgasmic had even stronger PC muscles.
Later a study by Perry and Whipple found that women who could squirt had even stronger PC muscles.
That may or may not be your woman’s reason for lack of orgasms, but if her lack of orgasms is due to mental issues, you now have a task to occupy her as you get around her own self limiting beliefs.
You can lead her through a program of exercising her PC muscles. She will become engaged in the program and believe that by exercising her PC muscles, she will then have orgasms. She can blame her PC muscles for her problem, and her PC muscles she can do something about. As she is strengthening her PC muscles, she becomes more excited about her impending ability to orgasm. This gives her subconscious mind something to believe in. This can result in her becoming orgasmic.
And if her PC muscles really were the problem, that problem is solved.
See the chapter called “Kegel Exercises.”
If Nothing Works
If nothing you do results in giving her an orgasm, then you are in a very difficult situation.
For one thing, do not come inside her in intercourse. If you do, then you are just like all the guys before you. Lame sex will get associated to you, just like it did to all the guys before you.
Now you are not going to be able to avoid intercourse with her all together, because she wants you to make love to her. She would be insulted if you didn’t. But if you come inside her, you are just like all the other guys. You have an orgasm from intercourse and she does not.
Instead, before you finish, pull out and do something else. You could masturbate and give her a facial, or you could have her finish you off with her mouth. But do NOT come inside her vagina. That is
reserved for when she becomes vaginally orgasmic and can actually have an orgasm in intercourse.
If you do not bring her to orgasm, for whatever reason, you have a decision you have to make about the relationship. If she is never going to have an orgasm in intercourse, sex will never be completely fulfilling for her.
There is one absolute way to ALWAYS give a woman an orgasm. You can simply hypnotize her and simply TELL her to have an orgasm, and she will INSTANTLY have
All of the above was about distracting her from her own concerns, insecurities, and self limiting beliefs, by giving her another task to perform, while the goal was simply to receive pleasure. But YOUR goal was to give her an orgasm.
Her First Vaginal Orgasm
All of the above can be used on a woman who is dependent on clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. For such a woman who has clitoral orgasms, but has never had a vaginal orgasm, she probably thinks that she is not one of the “lucky ones.” But at least you do not have to overcome fear and anxiety over having AN orgasm.
You can use the above to give her her first vaginal orgasm. Again, you simply give her pleasure for the sake of pleasure. The motivation is emotional intimacy.
You distract her self limiting belief that she cannot have a vaginal orgasm by giving her the task of pleasing you.
You drive it home by having her occupied with surrendering to you.
That last part will be much easier because she has already had clitoral orgasms.
The PC Muscles Method
If nothing works, you are eventually going to have to mention orgasms, and her lack of having them. But do NOT blame it on her mind or her sexual organs.
One possibility is to blame it on her PC muscles.
The PC muscles are the pelvic floor muscles that connect from the pubic bone to the tail bone. They can be strengthened by Kegel exercises. See the chapter “Kegel Exercises.”
A study in 1979 by Graber and Graber found that women who have not had an orgasm are women who had weak PC muscles. Women who had clitoral, but not vaginal orgasms, had stronger PC muscles.
Women who had both clitoral and vaginal orgasms had even stronger PC muscles.
Women who were multi-orgasmic had even stronger PC muscles.
Later a study by Perry and Whipple found that women who could squirt had even stronger PC muscles.
That may or may not be your woman’s reason for lack of orgasms, but if her lack of orgasms is due to mental issues, you now have a task to occupy her as you get around her own self limiting beliefs.
You can lead her through a program of exercising her PC muscles. She will become engaged in the program and believe that by exercising her PC muscles, she will then have orgasms. She can blame her PC muscles for her problem, and her PC muscles she can do something about. As she is strengthening her PC muscles, she becomes more excited about her impending ability to orgasm. This gives her subconscious mind something to believe in. This can result in her becoming orgasmic.
And if her PC muscles really were the problem, that problem is solved.
See the chapter called “Kegel Exercises.”
If Nothing Works
If nothing you do results in giving her an orgasm, then you are in a very difficult situation.
For one thing, do not come inside her in intercourse. If you do, then you are just like all the guys before you. Lame sex will get associated to you, just like it did to all the guys before you.
Now you are not going to be able to avoid intercourse with her all together, because she wants you to make love to her. She would be insulted if you didn’t. But if you come inside her, you are just like all the other guys. You have an orgasm from intercourse and she does not.
Instead, before you finish, pull out and do something else. You could masturbate and give her a facial, or you could have her finish you off with her mouth. But do NOT come inside her vagina. That is
reserved for when she becomes vaginally orgasmic and can actually have an orgasm in intercourse.
If you do not bring her to orgasm, for whatever reason, you have a decision you have to make about the relationship. If she is never going to have an orgasm in intercourse, sex will never be completely fulfilling for her.
There is one absolute way to ALWAYS give a woman an orgasm. You can simply hypnotize her and simply TELL her to have an orgasm, and she will INSTANTLY have
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