The Best You'll Ever Have by Valerie Frankel, Shannon Mullen Page B

muscle. You can feel it at the entrance of the vagina, but it stretches all across your bottom from your pubic bone to your tailbone like a hammock. Without it, you couldn’t keep a tampon in place, you’d be incontinent (in fact, one way to find the PC muscle is to stop your urine stream), and you wouldn’t have powerful contractions during orgasm. It’s jam-packed with nerve endings from the clitoris to the anus. To understand the G-spot, you must visualize the PC muscle. Picture the vagina as if it were a drawstring bag. When you pull a drawstring bag shut, there’s still a small opening, right? Imagine that is the opening of the vagina. The cinched part is your PC muscle. Just past the cinched part, there’s extra room. And that is where to find it.
    THE G-SPOT IS JUST BEYOND THE TIGHT RING OF MUSCLE AT THE VAGINAL ENTRANCE. That is marker number two.
    Moving along, knowing where to look is well and good, but you need a method for getting there. Take your hand and put it in the air and motion for someone to come over to you—the come-here motion we all know well. Turn your hand sideways while you’re in the middle of doing the “come here” motion and notice the steep curve of your index finger, the backwards “C” shape. If you inserted your fingers into your vagina and put them back into that same position, you’d be behind your pelvic bone and right in your G-spot area. Be sure to move your fingers around, pressing on your abdominal-side vaginal wall. Keep them curved into the C –shape, but try some circular motions to find the hotspot(s) of your own G-area. If you want, although you might laugh and totally ruin the mood, say, “Come here, G-spot” to attract its attention while making the motion inside.

    To Recap
You can do this alone or with a partner.
Lubrication is key.
Eliminate fears: make sure you pee beforehand.
You won’t find it unless you’re already turned on (because it won’t be there).
The G-spot is behind the pubic bone.
It is just beyond the PC muscles on the abdominal side of your vaginal wall.
You can access it by making the come-here motion with your fingers.
This is supposed to be a fun exploration, not a sweaty, overly determined hell-bent quest. Relax and poke around. You might strike gold.
    The G-Spot in Position
    Before trying to hit a perfect G with intercourse, I strongly advise you find it first with your own hands, your partner’s hands, or any of the wide selection of ergonomically curved G-spotter vibrators/wands (we call them Sexories at Safina). Vibrators will probably help you find it faster because they will tease the tissue into becoming erect. When you know your G-spot as well as you know the location of your nose, you can guide someone else to it. The worst thing to do is to give someone directions and have them get lost. Be sure of the way there yourself.
    Reminder: Tell your partner not to do a pressing-a-button motion. The same motions that work on the clitoris are a good idea.
    If you want to stimulate the G-spot during intercourse, your partner doesn’t have to be an expert at finding it with his penis. You can shift position so that he’s hitting it. Think of it like geometry: how can he be angled so that he’s dragging along the front/abdominal-side wall of the vagina? Based on what I’ve heard in Safina Salons, MISSIONARY POSITION IS THE WORST FOR G-SPOTTING FOR MOST WOMEN. Here are two positions that are better:
Typically, the position is referred to as “doggie style,” but the term seems so insulting. Of course, we need to suspend judgment and have fun, but somehow, equating yourself with a dog taints the whole thing. And I love dogs! But still, I don’t want to be one. So let’s refer to it as the Position Formerly Known as Doggie Style, or Admiring the Sheets. For G-spotting, Admiring the Sheets is the way to go. The penis enters at a downward angle; think 45 degrees, in and down. You can control the angle by adjusting with your elbows or