The Best You'll Ever Have by Valerie Frankel, Shannon Mullen

when women go looking for the G-spot, they’re surprised to learn that there’s a big bump of muscle that curves inward toward their abdominal-side vaginal wall, instead of the smooth, straight tube pictured in the tampon diagram. Confused? No wonder! You were expecting a straight shot, and the road has a hairpin curve. That curve is about one third of the way in and is the key to finding the G-spot.
    When I started the Safina Salons, I wanted to find an anatomically correct illustration to show to women. I went to the biggest textbook store in town and spent an entire day going through every medical textbook I could find. I thought I’d find a few illustrations to choose from that would clearly show the G-spot and the region as I understood it, and then I could just show women where to find the G-spot, and other points of interest.
    I ended up buying the three most popular medical textbooks. I took all three books home, scanned the diagrams, enlarged them, and took them to my gynecologist. My doctor couldn’t believe what trouble I’d gone to when I showed them to her. I explained to her that I was determined to find the best illustration possible for the Salons. I expressed my concern, saying that I thought each of the diagrams was inaccurate. She said, “Everyone knows the diagrams are all wrong. The best medical illustrations were done by Frank H. Netter in the 1930s, and could stand updating.”
    The main thing that was missing from these diagrams (and the diagram in the tampon instructions) is that the vagina is drawn in the unobstructed test tube style. My gynecologist explained that these illustrations are based on drawings from cross sections of cadavers (which of course don’t have tight muscles). She showed me the three-dimensional clear plastic model of the female pelvis and said, “You think the diagram is bad, look at this.” We stared at the disproportionate model with its pre-pubescent hips and short fat vagina that led to a large solid-colored uterus and big fallopian tubes. “It’s completely disproportionate within itself even if it’s not supposed to be at a 1:1 scale,” she said. The G-spot is unmarked in the textbook illustrations and the plastic model. I theorized to my doctor that “the G-spot is excluded from medical education because it doesn’t get sick.” She considered that and agreed. Most doctors are only interested in parts that cause problems. The only problem with the G-spot, however, is the lack of informational material about it.
    Look at the illustration on the next page. This is gynecologist approved, with all parts clearly marked and shapes and sizes proportionate to scale. Compare it with the famous tampon diagram. Like night and day.
    Two last quick points about the great unsolved mystery of the G-spot and then down to the business of what, and where, it is.
    REASON NUMBER THREE for the bafflement: The G-spot vanishes! Not by magic. The tissue that makes up the G-spot is erectile. Just like a penis, or a clitoris, or nipples. When you get sexually excited, they get hard, swollen, bigger, full of blood. Same thing with the G-spot. Just like an erection, it is only there if the mood is right. The G-spot is tactilely invisible and undetectable unless you’re hot and bothered. When you are aroused, it swells, inflates, and gets a ridgy texture.
    With this in mind, I’m not at all suggesting you throw this book aside and hunker down to find your G-spot with the same determination you might start a first novel or run a marathon. The G-spot doesn’t respond to that kind of pressure. Think of it as shy. Don’t plow in, demanding its presence. It’ll vanish on you.
    Finally, REASON NUMBER FOUR: The G-spot sensation is often misunderstood.
    Stimulation of the G-spot can easily be confused with the feeling that you need to pee. There’s a simple anatomical reason for this, which I’ll get to in a minute. When a partner finds a woman’s G-spot, she may experience a very