textâ but that is, tbh, bull. If he wonât meet up with you in person or at the very least call you to make things right, turn his notifications to âDO NOT DISTURBâ on your phone until he calls you. Best to keep a friend around during this so he or she can make sure you donât sneak a peek at his messages.
And finally, here are some things that you SHOULDNâT worry about:
1
He texts less. This is something every girl freaks out about sometimes, but, tbh, once youâve been in a relationship for a little bit, neither of you NEEDS constant communication to know that youâre still really into one another. Try to relax. Talk to your friends before you confront him, cuz it really sucks when things are going good and your paranoia causes you todo that whole, âWhy arenât u texting me as much? Donât U like me anymore? lol?â
NOT THAT IâVE DONE THAT OR ANYTHING.
2
Heâs not super lovey-dovey anymore. Idk, maybe he uses your pet name less frequently or maybe he isnât constantly stroking your hand across the table. As long as he isnât acting super cold and shady, donât freak. This is normal. Itâs called moving out of the Honeymoon Phase. The Honeymoon Phase is where everything is ideal and perfect and youâre super obsessed with the other person. This usually lasts about a month or two. Itâs actually a good thing when it ends cuz it means youâre just entering a new, even closer part of your relationship. RELAX.
3
He forgets your, I DUNNO, four-month anniversary or something. Guys RARELY pay close attention to the details. I onceasked my ex if he remembered when we started dating (in March) and he said âlike end of April or something.â I remember getting pissed off, but honestly, he knew it was in the spring so I let it slide. Forgetting a few details doesnât necessarily mean that heâs not into you anymore.
Now, letâs say you are the one ENDING the relationship. THIS SUCKS, TOO. You cared about this person at one point. Thereâs probably things about your S.O. you still care about. Thereâs nothing fun about breaking someoneâs heart.
1
Really think about why youâre ending it before you end it. Rash decisions arenât a good idea. Maybe try taking a break. Start with something like, âWeâve been arguing a lot lately. Why donât we spend a week or two by ourselves to cool off and think, and then we can get back together to discuss things when weâre both a little less heated?âHe may get pissed off, but taking a break is a really great way to spend time alone and see if you really are happier without that person in your life. Especially if youâve been fighting a lot. A little time and distance will help you see if what youâve been arguing about is temporary or something thatâs really wrong with your relationship.
2
If you decide the break youâre on should be permanent, expect him to be angry. Try to be as gentle as possible when ending it. Take responsibility. Focus on the positives. Youâre not trying to destroy him, right? Itâs not an argument to be won, just a thing that needs to be said. I canât tell you exactly what to tell him, because I donât know your relationship. Only you know what that person would benefit most from hearing. Also, realize there is no way for you to be totally comforting without giving the other person false hope, which is really not nice, evenif you only have good intentions. Expect them to yell and curse and maybe say things that are hurtful. Try not to take it personally, but also donât be a doormat. You donât have to sit there and let them tear into you. Find a way to say something like, âI get that youâre hurt and upset, and Iâm sorry. But I think a lot of what youâre saying is fueled by anger, and for my own sanity, I need to go now.â Also, try to avoid as best you can
And finally, here are some things that you SHOULDNâT worry about:
1
He texts less. This is something every girl freaks out about sometimes, but, tbh, once youâve been in a relationship for a little bit, neither of you NEEDS constant communication to know that youâre still really into one another. Try to relax. Talk to your friends before you confront him, cuz it really sucks when things are going good and your paranoia causes you todo that whole, âWhy arenât u texting me as much? Donât U like me anymore? lol?â
NOT THAT IâVE DONE THAT OR ANYTHING.
2
Heâs not super lovey-dovey anymore. Idk, maybe he uses your pet name less frequently or maybe he isnât constantly stroking your hand across the table. As long as he isnât acting super cold and shady, donât freak. This is normal. Itâs called moving out of the Honeymoon Phase. The Honeymoon Phase is where everything is ideal and perfect and youâre super obsessed with the other person. This usually lasts about a month or two. Itâs actually a good thing when it ends cuz it means youâre just entering a new, even closer part of your relationship. RELAX.
3
He forgets your, I DUNNO, four-month anniversary or something. Guys RARELY pay close attention to the details. I onceasked my ex if he remembered when we started dating (in March) and he said âlike end of April or something.â I remember getting pissed off, but honestly, he knew it was in the spring so I let it slide. Forgetting a few details doesnât necessarily mean that heâs not into you anymore.
Now, letâs say you are the one ENDING the relationship. THIS SUCKS, TOO. You cared about this person at one point. Thereâs probably things about your S.O. you still care about. Thereâs nothing fun about breaking someoneâs heart.
1
Really think about why youâre ending it before you end it. Rash decisions arenât a good idea. Maybe try taking a break. Start with something like, âWeâve been arguing a lot lately. Why donât we spend a week or two by ourselves to cool off and think, and then we can get back together to discuss things when weâre both a little less heated?âHe may get pissed off, but taking a break is a really great way to spend time alone and see if you really are happier without that person in your life. Especially if youâve been fighting a lot. A little time and distance will help you see if what youâve been arguing about is temporary or something thatâs really wrong with your relationship.
2
If you decide the break youâre on should be permanent, expect him to be angry. Try to be as gentle as possible when ending it. Take responsibility. Focus on the positives. Youâre not trying to destroy him, right? Itâs not an argument to be won, just a thing that needs to be said. I canât tell you exactly what to tell him, because I donât know your relationship. Only you know what that person would benefit most from hearing. Also, realize there is no way for you to be totally comforting without giving the other person false hope, which is really not nice, evenif you only have good intentions. Expect them to yell and curse and maybe say things that are hurtful. Try not to take it personally, but also donât be a doormat. You donât have to sit there and let them tear into you. Find a way to say something like, âI get that youâre hurt and upset, and Iâm sorry. But I think a lot of what youâre saying is fueled by anger, and for my own sanity, I need to go now.â Also, try to avoid as best you can
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