This May Sound Crazy by Abigail Breslin Page B

dumping someone in public or by text. In public, they don’t have the license to really feel their emotions, and it’s just a way for you to feel less awkward cuz you know they can’t be as upset in front of total strangers. Over text is just . . . No.
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Realize you don’t need a definitive reason to get out of a situation. If you’re with someone and unhappy, that’s good enough. You don’t have to wait for him to cheat on you or be a jerk. You don’t needdocumentable cause. I’ve ended things with people where they’ve been great, but I’m just personally not happy. There is no reason to stay with someone if you aren’t happy—and don’t EVER let someone manipulate you into staying for THEIR happiness. There’s a great quote from a book, I forget which one, but it says, “You are not required to set yourself on fire in order to keep other people warm.” REMEMBER THAT.
    ALSO. AFTERWARD, don’t move on till you’re ready. Sometimes, you want to find someone new right away, but that’s usually a bad idea. If you’re still hung up on your ex (and there’s a good chance you are), then it’s unfair to you AND the new person to involve them in your life if you’re not ready to be emotionally available for them.
    At the end of the day, breakups are iehgvudfgid (that’s the sound of my head poundingon the keyboard) awful. But in either scenario, you will survive—and so will the other person, which may be an even tougher pill to swallow. Right? Just cuz you’ve moved on and found someone else, doesn’t mean you want him to move on, too. Sad truth: We all want to be the best thing you ever had. So, when you’re feeling a bit jealous, like it was a bit too easy for him, refer back to Chapter 1: Reasons to Not Stalk Your Ex. UNFRIEND THEM. IGNORE THEM. Why put yourself through the agony of seeing them with someone else—even if you know it shouldn’t be agony at all?
    And when all else fails, and you start to backslide and doubt your decision or you start to think that one sad text or funny fb post will win him back, put on your favorite movie, call your friends over, have a dance party, cry as much as you want to sad music, and eat tons and tons of chocolate.

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    And KNOW you will
survive and that
eventually you will
really be ready to
move on.
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WHY NOT TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ ON SOCIAL MEDIA

    I am a product of the internet era. I have grown up with cell phones, Wi-Fi, and social media. I got my first phone when I was ten, a Virgin Mobile phone. My parents set it up so I could only make emergency calls—to 911 and to them. But I still found a way to text my cousin about The O.C. Yes, I have grown up in the time when everything I could possibly need was a click away. I’m so thankful for that. It makes life easy.
    However, sometimes I wish I was born in, like, 1889. Technology, although brilliant, is terrifying. And daunting. And nerve-racking.
    Social media has become a beast. Everyone has a voice. There’re no filters. No editors. No adult in the room. It can be a horrifying outlet for angry people to vent their frustration on the world—anonymously.
    Except, NO ONE is really anonymous.
A strange concept, no?
    In a world where your name can be anything you choose, you are still not an unknown entity.
    Everyone is a celebrity, and anyone you know could be the paparazzi.
    I know friends who have not gotten accepted to colleges because a photo of them ~schwasted~ at a bar was posted on Facebook. THIS IS REAL.
    How does this happen, though? How does Surfcutie90’s post get seen by a dean at Harvard? It’s simple as this:
    Type in ANY name you can think of. You are bound to see something you DON’T want to. It’s bad for anyone. Whether you areAngelina Jolie, or a middle school student in Iowa, you may be subject to unknown photos and misplaced quotes.
    I have known