Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss

that it’s not so bad, that rejection really has nothing to do with who you are. It’s more like somebody flicking you in the shoulder with a finger. You know it happened, but it doesn’t hurt you or really even bother you. It’s actually just immature and embarrassing on their part.
    I took a student out once and tried to get us rejected to help him past his fears. But a funny thing happened: My plan backfired, and I wasn’t rejected at all. The conversation went something like this:
    ME: Hey! How are you doing? Could you blow us out? We need to get blown out.
    THEM: Huh? What’s that?
    ME: Oh, that’s when a couple of guys roll up and you’re in some mood, so you’re totally rude and don’t wanna talk, and you tell the guys to—
    THEM [ INTERRUPTING ]: Oh, we’re not rude. Not at all!
    We ended up having a pleasant conversation for forty-five minutes, after which we exchanged contact information. The exercise was supposed to demonstrate that blow-outs are pain free, but it ended up teaching a different lesson: that you can open by saying almost anything when you’re confident, congruent, and upbeat.
    Feel free to prove it to yourself. Next time you see someone you want to talk to, open your mouth and say the first thing that comes to mind. As long as your comment or question isn’t rude or hostile, you may be surprised by how difficult it is to get solidly rejected.
    After trying this a few times, you’ll also notice that everyone’s responses vary. Then you can adjust your attitude to expect nothing and prepare for everything. Or, as the poet Samuel Hazo puts it:
    Expect everything, and anything seems nothing.
Expect nothing, and anything seems everything .

    DID YOU COMPLIMENT FOUR WOMEN?
DID YOU SHOP FOR NEW CLOTHES?
DID YOU CREATE YOUR MISSION STATEMENT,
DO THE POSTURE EXERCISE, GET MOVIE RECOMMENDATIONS
FROM THREE STRANGERS?
    IF YOU ANSWERED YES TO ALL OF THESE QUESTIONS, THEN
PROCEED TO THE NEXT PAGE.
    IF YOU HAVEN’T ACTUALLY BEEN DOING THE MISSIONS
BUT JUST READING TO GET THE INFORMATION,
THEN DO NOT PROGRESS PAST THIS PAGE UNTIL YOU CAN
ANSWER YES TO THE QUESTIONS ABOVE.
    READING THIS WORKBOOK STRAIGHT THROUGH
IS LIKE GOING TO THE GYM TO WATCH TELEVISION.
YOU’RE NOT GOING TO IMPROVE
IF YOU DON’T DO THE EXERCISES.

MISSION 1: Learn to Open
    Your first lesson today: There is no such thing as a pickup line.
    If there were a single sentence that magically made women fall in love or lust, every man would be using it. Most of what people call pickup lines are actually comedic one-liners that were never legitimately used to meet women in the first place.
    What does exist is a specific sequential process that can be used to develop a romantic or sexual relationship with a woman.
    And this process begins with the opener, perhaps the most important part of the interaction.
    Your task is to turn to your Day 7 Briefing and read the field guide to openers before beginning the next mission.
MISSION 2: Prepare Your Opener
    Your mission is to develop an original opener based on today’s briefing.
    The simplest way to generate an opener is to think about anything you’re curious about, want to learn, or are confused about. Choose a topic that is likely to capture the interest of most people. It can be a meaningful, debate-inspiring subject based on a relationship or spiritual crisis, or it can be a specific, trivial subject based on a popular culture, travel, health, or social customs query.
    Then, instead of asking a friend about the subject or looking up the information on the internet, use it as a reason to talk to other people. For example, if you can’t remember who sings a certain popular song, make it your mission when you leave the house today to ask strangers until you get a correct answer.If your friend’s girlfriend tried to kiss you, and you don’t know whether to tell him or not, by all means, get some advice from the woman